You

The title 'You' is used as the pronoun for “The one or ones being addressed" in the second person singular or plural in any grammatical relation except that of a possessive. To certain people it precisely means the explicit meaning of it only and doesn't offer any significance other than that. However, my opinion differs otherwise which is why probably I don't see eye - to - eye with such people.

According to these people, one needn't care for the "second person" of the English language, if that person is out of the close circles of one's family. Because they think if you care and help for that person, it means, you will lose marks, you will waste precious time of your own, that person will learn everything from you and leave you in the dark and so on and so forth. Some of you will know exactly what I am talking about.

These people tend to influence you to the extent that they almost dictate how you should be, how you should not mingle with others unless you gain information and not to share information that you know. The second person 'You' , is according to them is someone whom one shouldn't trust as they never mean to do good to you. This is the environment in which some unfortunate souls grow up and thereby grow up not knowing the value of friendship at the right age and don't belong to friends of their own age. Thus being singled out, and spending time in loneliness with academics being the only pursuit of life, such souls achieve great heights as expected out of them. But however all those wonderful years of fun, frolic and laughter that should have been spent in the innocent ways of growing up are lost and you finally end up as a person who has achieved something without any 'You' standing beside 'Me' and wishing luck.

Quoting one of my teachers, you tend to be alone while standing at the very top. Some people do this because they are so self-centered, and some do it because of certain people as explained and they can't give up on those certain people at any point of time. Effectively, I would like to observe that by considering 'You' an insignifcant word, you end up being overprotective of yourself instead of just letting yourself experience whatever life offers to you and making the best out of it. For all those wannabe parents around, including friends of my own, I just have this piece of advice to offer, let your children experience life of fun and laughter with friends rather being all alone with books and great achievements to name.

According to my personal view, the word 'You' offers a special meaning to one's life, it is this word which teaches us to care and share with people everything in life be it happy moments or sad moments. Though having had a tough time to balance my emotions to include 'You' into my life and also listen to the words of those people who don't believe in 'You', I have grown to learn that 'You' is as important a word in life, in fact even more than 'Me'. Well, I think being a festive season, it has gotten into me to write this topic with a holiday touch. So as I close, the deeds of caring and sharing which heralds the spirit of the holiday season, always signifies the word 'You' first other than 'Me'.

Achieve

“To carry out successfully” – is the dictionary meaning of this word. But is this all what it means to me in my life. No, wait… I see another meaning in the dictionary for this, “To get or attain as the result of exertion”. Now what does this mean…? You need to stress yourself with sustained effort and keep doing things to get results.

Well, the second definition suits my life perfectly. Yes, all these years my success in academics was a pure result of this. Hard work, hard work, …hard work…. all the while, no friends.... no fun. But is that what life is all about…achieving things?

Life is very beautiful, and as one of my friends often quotes “Being happy is the most important thing in life”. Yes, true. Let me ask myself one question…. Did this word “Achieve” make me happy in life? Yes, truly it did, but then I was recipient of more pain than gain by achieving things.

All these years, I have been blinded by the fact “Hard work is the only key to success” that I got to hear from my parents, my relatives, and my environment. What is the success that we talk of here? Success in life? No, it is the success in any endeavor that you do, academics, work-related, etc. What is true success in life? What do you need to achieve for obtaining success…. is a different question itself.

Well, I am not one who says, don’t do hard work and laze around…if perhaps people are mistaken by the way I have been writing so far. But recently, I woke up to reality by understanding what does this word mean in my life.

“Achieve” – Not just results of your hard work, but happiness in having lived a fruitful life, which benefits not just one, but also all friends and others near and around you.

Before I end up this topic, let me see, this being my first blog…Hmm…. Shouldn’t I make that interesting? Well, let us see if anyone can figure out what I am trying to say in the first six posts of this blog… Keep reading and post your valuable comments on my thoughts. Well, keep guessing…for the next title on my blog ;-)